(including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were sore. We were 'burned up.' On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with? We were usually as definite as this example:

Im resentful at: The Cause Affects my:
Mr. Brown His attention to my wife.
Told my wife of my mistress.
Brown may get my job at the office.
Sex relations.
Self-esteem (fear)
Sex relations.
Self-esteem (fear)
Self-esteem (fear)
Mrs. Jones Shes a nut -- she
snubbed me. She committed her hus-
band for drinking.
Hes my friend.
Shes a gossip.
Personal relation-
ship. Self-esteem
My employer Unreasonable-Unjust
- Overbearing -
Threatens to fire
me for my drinking
and padding my ex -
pense account.
Self-esteem (fear)
My wife Misunderstands and
nags. Likes Brown.
Wants house put in
her name.
Pride -- Personal
sex relations --
Security (fear)
We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. When we were finished we considered it carefully. The first thing ap-

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