| (including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were sore. We were 'burned up.' On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with? We were usually as definite as this example:
| I’m resentful at: | The Cause | Affects my: | | Mr. Brown | His attention to my wife.
Told my wife of my mistress.
Brown may get my job at the office. | Sex relations.
Self-esteem (fear)
Sex relations.
Self-esteem (fear)
Security
Self-esteem (fear) | | Mrs. Jones | She’s a nut -- she
snubbed me. She committed her hus-
band for drinking.
He’s my friend.
She’s a gossip. | Personal relation-
ship. Self-esteem
(fear) | | My employer | Unreasonable-Unjust
- Overbearing -
Threatens to fire
me for my drinking
and padding my ex -
pense account. | Self-esteem (fear)
Security. | | My wife | Misunderstands and
nags. Likes Brown.
Wants house put in
her name. | Pride -- Personal
sex relations --
Security (fear) |
We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. When we were finished we considered it carefully. The first thing ap- |