(including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were sore. We were 'burned up.' On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with? We were usually as definite as this example:
I’m resentful at: | The Cause | Affects my: | Mr. Brown | His attention to my wife. Told my wife of my mistress. Brown may get my job at the office. | Sex relations. Self-esteem (fear) Sex relations. Self-esteem (fear) Security Self-esteem (fear) | Mrs. Jones | She’s a nut -- she snubbed me. She committed her hus- band for drinking. He’s my friend. She’s a gossip. | Personal relation- ship. Self-esteem (fear) | My employer | Unreasonable-Unjust - Overbearing - Threatens to fire me for my drinking and padding my ex - pense account. | Self-esteem (fear) Security. | My wife | Misunderstands and nags. Likes Brown. Wants house put in her name. | Pride -- Personal sex relations -- Security (fear) |
We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. When we were finished we considered it carefully. The first thing ap- |